Recently, Mom Paula was at a meeting with other pet bloggers and she went out to dinner with some new friends who happened to be dog bloggers. They were having a lot of fun at dinner and one of the dog bloggers looked at Mom Paula and said, You're not a "crazy cat lady, you're a cool cat lady." This was an interesting and refreshing perspective on the stereotypical view of females who are owned by cats. Mom Paula has been told many times by people that she meets that she isn't the stereotypical cat lady. What is a Cat Lady?
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| Truffle thinks everyone should be a Cat Lady |
Mom Paula was inspired to write about being a Cat Lady when she read an article on PawCulture™ about Reinventing the Cat Lady. PawCulture is a new website with articles focused on pet tips, DIY projects, pet lifestyle, pet recipes, and rescue stories. They even have a Cat Clubhouse, which is devoted to exclusive cat content and feline features. PawCulture's mission is to celebrate the unbreakable bond between pets and their humans and they do this by informing, inspiring, and entertaining devoted pet parents with helpful advice, useful tips, and superior storytelling.
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| A Cat Lady can be glamorous - Mom Paula and Truffle |
Cat Ladies are Stylish
One of the stereotypes of a Cat Lady is the old lady in a bathrobe with disheveled hair. Mom Paula may be old (she turns 61 this month), but she never leaves the house without makeup, her hair brushed, and stylish clothes. Mom Paula's wardrobe consists of clothes with a lot of bling (even her sweats and jeans), styled with comfort to fit the occasion. She always has a pet hair removal roller nearby to remove as much of our beautiful fur as possible from her clothes. We tend to sneak on a few extra cat furs as she is leaving, so there is also a roller in her car and in the office. Mom Paula does have a comfortable bathrobe she wears and she's been known to wear sweats and go without makeup when she's staying home for the day, which isn't often.
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| Mom Paula has a Ph.D. in Mathematics Education |
Cat Ladies are Intelligent
Another stereotype of Cat Ladies is that they can be unhinged and loony. Mom Paula earned a Ph.D. in Mathematics Education from Clemson University when she went through her divorce 20 years ago. She taught mathematics in the middle school environment for 17+ years and was a college professor teaching mathematics and mathematics education for 10+ years. She's worked in the Academic Affairs Division of the Commission on Higher Education for the past 11+ years and will retire March 31. She says not only has she had to overcome the stereotype of a Cat Lady, but that of a blonde-haired, blue-eyed, Southern female. Mom Paula is the kindest and friendliest person you'll meet, but she is passionate, assertive, and independent. When Mom Paula was a college professor, one of her students came to her office one day to ask her a question. The conversation went something like this:
Student: Can I ask you a question?
Mom Paula: You may ask but I may not answer.
Student: You have a cat, right?
Mom Paula: Yes
Student: How can you have a cat? You're such a control freak and cats are so independent. (Interesting note: this student raised Persians)
Mom Paula: She keeps me honest.
The student left the office laughing.
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| Mom Paula with her friend Stephanie and mother at a Gamecock football game |
Cat Ladies are Social
Another stereotype of Cat Ladies is that they are lonely and introverted humans with no one to keep them company except their cats. Don't get us wrong, Mom Paula loves being with us, but she has an active social life. She attends all of the South Carolina Gamecocks football, men's basketball, women's basketball, and baseball games. Mom Paula attends conferences and meetings (BlogPaws, BarkWorld, Cat Writer's Association, and Global Pet Expo) and loves to meet people. Mom Paula has been known to start up a conversation with strangers in the checkout line or at the gas pump. Mom Paula is definitely an extrovert and can tend to "wear out" people who are with her. One of her special cat blogging friends told her recently, "I love hanging out with you, but I'm exhausted after being with you all day." Many of our cat blogging humans are shy, but they are great people who have a lot to offer to the world.
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| Mom Paula with Sydney (RIP) and Smoikey |
Cat Ladies Love Dogs, Too!
Another stereotype of the Cat Lady is that they do not like dogs. Mom Paula grew up with dogs the first 20 years of her life. She had a Collie, a Cocker Spaniel, and a Pekingese. When she was married, she wanted a pet, but her husband (now an ex) was afraid of dogs. Mom Paula had never been really comfortable around cats because her parents didn't really like them, but she wanted a pet, so she told her spouse that she wanted a cat, but it would stay inside. This was the first time she'd ever had a pet to live indoors. Mom Paula still loves dogs and lives vicariously through her mother's dog, Bandit, and her sister's dogs. She was excited to meet many of our dog friends and their dogs at BlogPaws last year. We really feel it's okay to prefer one species over another, but we should always be accepting of animals who are different from us. They are all special in their own way and are great companions for their humans. Mom Paula said if she lived in a different location and wasn't working that she'd consider bringing another dog into her life. We aren't so sure we'd be happy with that arrangement. MOL!
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Mom Paula with Truffle and Brulee
Photo courtesy Bonnie Koenig |
Cat Ladies Speak Meow
One stereotype of Cat Ladies is that they love cats and this is definitely true. Mom Paula has been owned by a cat for the last 40 years. She gets very frustrated when someone will say, "It's just a cat." When Sweet Praline was diagnosed with cancer and didn't have long to live, Mom Paula was frequently depressed. When talking to one of her colleagues at work, he made the comment that she was just a cat. Mom Paula set him straight by saying she'd never say something about his children to him and she'd appreciate the same respect. We are her girls and no one can tell her any differently. There's something special about coming home to those soft and furry creatures who can calm the most stressed human with a purr. Cat Ladies don't often get the chance to meet other cat people because most cats live in the home and do not travel like our dog friends. Mom Paula is thankful she's been able to meet some of our cat friends and their humans at pet blogging events, such as BlogPaws. Mom Paula hopes to reach out to other humans about the unique bond between cats and their humans once she retires. She'd like to participate at a local shelter and other social events where she can make a difference.
Mom Paula is a Cat Lady and proud of it!
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