Thursday, November 4, 2021

Blog For Peace

Each year, Mimi Lennox sponsors Blog For Peace, which is an opportunity for bloggers to focus on peace in the world. She provides templates of Blog For Peace and bloggers are allowed to use them and add their own quotes, photos, and/or designs.

Sweet Purrfections Peace Graphic from 2020

This year's theme is "Courageous Peace in a Time of Great Change." This theme can have so many meanings for each person, but there is a special personal meaning for us this year. 

Grandma Faye (Mom Paula's mother) is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's Disease and Mom Paula is the major caregiver. Grandma Faye was always the sweetest lady and would do anything for anyone. Alzheimer's has changed her personality in such a way that we never know what each day will bring. Grandma Faye can still be so sweet, but when "sundowner's syndrome" or a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection) hits, she becomes irritable, restless, verbally abusive, and mean.

Blog 4 Peace Graphic with lady and two silver shaded Persians and a peace quote

Note from Mom Paula: I've always considered myself to be a strong individual who could handle anything that comes my way, even though I do suffer from anxiety attacks and depression. I've survived a divorce, earning a Ph.D., losing a job, several surgeries and illnesses, and retirement. I've always found a way to survive. 

I wasn't prepared for the emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion that comes from being a caregiver of a loved one with Alzheimer's Disease. No one really warns you about the turmoil of personality changes during a day. One minute, mom can be so sweet and within a few seconds, she turns on me. She calls me names, slaps me, pinches me, and other things. I try to stay calm, but it's so hard! There's been times, I've walked out of the house because I couldn't handle the abuse, but I always come back inside and do what is needed. My mom is still living at home with my dad, who is 88 years old and suffers from COPD and Peripheral Neuropathy. I have a sister who lives 2 hours away and she's now coming down once a week, which gives me a break. I need major hand surgery on my right hand (dominate hand), but can't get it because I need to be at my parents' home each day. My physical and emotional health have taken a beating, but I'm trying to keep it together.

Lady hugging a silver shaded Persian Cat

I am so blessed that I have Truffle and Brulee to come home to in the evenings. They are both there for me in different ways. Truffle has always been my emotional support and Brulee my physical support. However, I believe both of them are now in touch with my erratic emotions and are doing whatever they can to comfort me. Wherever I choose to go when I get home, they are both in the room with me. When I go to bed, both will jump up on the bed with me and Truffle will lay beside me on the left, touching my leg. Brulee is now climbing onto my lap with her front paws on my chest. Their purrs bring peace to my troubled soul and I'm so grateful for them. I've also experienced visits from Sweet Praline (RIP 2011) prior to my going to sleep. I feel a cat walking beside my legs when I lay down to sleep and I look up and Truffle and Brulee are not in sight. I truly believe cats have a 6th sense about our needs.

Brulee's newest support of climbing onto my chest

No matter what you are going through in life, it's important to find the time to take care of yourself so you can experience inner peace. You can't do anything about the world around you unless you take care of yourself first. I hope each of you have a special cat (or dog) who is there for you for support.

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  1. Blessings, and peace ~ may it come and be with you and all those you love.

  2. We are purring and praying for peace too.

    Our Mom's Mom had Alzheimer's and we know how difficult it can be. (((hugs)))

    The Florida Furkids

  3. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Both of my parents have serious health issues, and I'm their primary caregiver as well, so I completely understand how difficult and draining it can be, and how much our beloved cats are needed at a time like this.

  4. We're purring and praying for peace today too.
    Purrrrs, Spike William

  5. Wishing you calming peace!
    So good that you have those sweet cats with you because cats really do help a person deal with stress.
    Hope too, they you can find time to be good to yourself.It is important and you need that.
    Lots of hugs and purrs <3
    Purrs, Julie and mum Nancy

  6. I'm so glad your sweet girls are taking care of you. We've dealt with Alzheimers too, it's brutal. We hope you maintain your inner Peace. We hope Peace becomes more contageous than Covid and we hope Peace spreads everywhere quickly.

  7. I am so sorry you and your parents are going through this. You will be in my prayers. XO

  8. Awwww...this is so hard. I'm sorry you and your parents are going through this. I've read several posts today about taking care of ourselves to maintain our inner peace. You are walking a hard road right now. But those little kitties are helping you out the best way they can. What a joy to have them!

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'm sure it will bring understanding and comfort to those walking in your shoes.
    Peace to you and yours,

  9. Wow, no one has to tell you about courage. You live it every day. Bless you.

  10. Lots of purrs to you - I don't think anyone is ever prepared to take care of a parent with Alzheimer's, no matter how much they know ahead of time.

    1. Beautiful post. Best peace day blessings! The rest of your personal story echoed so much of my own it was really strange.

      I know the burn out feeling. Please make sure you take any moments you get to rest and just have fun. It's so important to take care of yourself, as well. <3

  11. I'm sorry you're going through this. Neither you nor your mo deserves it. Soft paws for inner strength and peace that comes from the girls.

  12. We are so sorry to hear about all you and your mom are going through. We are purring and praying for peace for you today and every day.

  13. This is such an important event and I managed (foolish me) to completely miss it this year. Thank you for gifting us such a splendid post that adds lustre and respect to the Blog for Peace event.

  14. That is indeed a hard challenge. My mom has cognitive deficits too, even though apparently it's not Alzheimer's. Life is hard and finding inner peace often seems out of reach.

  15. Sending you only positive vibes and prayers for your parents and yourself Paula. I understand being a caregiver for aging parents is tough and especially one's with Alzheimer's. Definitely practice self care the best you can and I'm happy to hear your sister can come down once a week to give you a much needed break. So glad your Truffle and Brulee are there for Mom for physical snuggles and emotional support. A message of peace is much needed for sure.

  16. I have never heard of Blog for Peace and just love this idea. I pray for peace all the time as the world would be a better place for everyone including animals.

    I am really sorry about your Mom but you are blessed to come home to Brulee and Truffle each evening to help you ease your stress. Sending you a hug

  17. It's amazing how in tune with us our pets can be, isn't it? I've seen time and time again with our own crew that they always somehow just 'know' when I need some extra comfort. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with all of that right now but at the same time, I am SO glad that you have Brulee and Truffle to come home to!

  18. You have amazing girls who know just when you need them. Sending you hugs, my friend.

  19. I'm so sorry, Paula. I recently lost one of my grandmothers who was suffering from Alzheimers and now we're dealing with it with my partner's grandmother as well. It's definitely not an easy thing, and that's an understatement. My thoughts are with you. I'm glad that Truffle and Brulee are there to bring you some comfort.

  20. Firstly, I am so sorry you are going through this. My Grandmother had Alzheimer's and I know how difficult it was for my mother. I'm glad your sister is now able to provide enough help for you to take a breath.

    I appreciate the theme "Courageous Peace in a Time of Great Change," and the quote about the importance of making deliberate choices to protect our mental/emotional, physical, and spiritual selves. It warmed my heart to know that Paraline is also looking out for you. Hang in there xx
    I appreciate the theme

  21. I'm so sorry that your mom is suffering from dementia. I know it is very difficult to be the caretaker of a person who has it. I'm glad that you have Truffle and Brulee to help you deal with it all. Sending you much love and your girls!

  22. We went through this same hell with my mom and I know what a huge toll it takes on caregivers. I hope you will please consider talking w/ her doctor about medications that can keep the anger outbursts in check and level her emotional reactions out. My mom had terrible outbursts at first, then she turned them all on my poor father. He developed cancer soon afterwards which made things way worse. We had outside caregivers come in a few hours a week, just to get a break and get some things done in the house. My heart goes out to you, I know that pain firsthand.


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